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Post by hoyles10 on Jan 16, 2006 14:58:31 GMT
Can anyone help me decide what to do? ? I have been invited to a wedding this coming weekend. I got the invite ages ago but forgot all about it until my phone has just flashed up with a reminder. The thing is I love the girl who's getting married to bits and we went out with each other briefly a few years ago, but the lad she is marrying I have no time for and is the closest I have come to hateing someone. This lad even threatened to knock me out at my own dad's funeral wake because I told him to "shut it" during a speach about my dad. Since then each time we have met he constently has little digs and makes smart comments to me. I just ignore it but the last 2 times we have met we have come to blows. The first time he followed me to the toilet and tried to 'Sidewind' me but somehow my timing was spot on and I moved out of the way the second before he hit me. The second time we came to blows he ran the edge of a pound coin over the bonnet of my car outside the pub. I have spoken to my friend and she say's that she really wants me at the wedding. I know for a fact as she has told me that if I dont go then it wont be her perfect day and she will be very upset, but if I do go I know that something will happen between me and her new husband and that will ruin the day. So can you help me out. Do I go and take the risk, stay away and be on the safeside or try and convince her not to marry him and call the whole thing off and tell her all the stuff she doesn't know about him and he isn't this gentle lovely lad she thinks he is. I'm so stuck as what to do.
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Post by hoyles10 on Jan 16, 2006 14:59:35 GMT
When I say I love the girl to bit's I mean as a friend.
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Post by alicecoopersgirl on Jan 16, 2006 16:01:11 GMT
Aww hun...noone can tell you how to handle this one as it is a tough one...you have to decide what to do because you know your mate and know what she is like...you have to think along the lines of will she hate you for the rest of your life if you split her and her guy up(and things like that)
Good luck with that one...sorry I was not any help.
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Post by neilrudd on Jan 16, 2006 21:07:00 GMT
If it were me i would go ,shes ur freind and she wants you there. Dont cause any trouble talk to her first and say that you wont start or do anything if you go it'll be down to the groom if it kicks off .Express your concerns as a freind unless you love her then tell her , could be your last chance. and you might get to pop her one before she gets married lol only joking.but defo go its what she wants.... and if you stay in with her if it all goes pear shapped you will be a shoulder to cry on and create another chance to rub belly buttons sorry couldn't help that Gggggrrrrrr Anyway i would go.....
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Post by hoyles10 on Jan 16, 2006 21:21:54 GMT
Well she's been. Thank god that's done with. I printed off everything I put in my thread and showed her. I explained that I wouldn't be able to make it to the wedding as I cant promise that nothing will happen. If it was up to me I would love to go but if he's been drinking and get's 'giddy' and starts off again then I can't guarantee that it would be left. I told her that I really dislike this lad and think she would be safer marrying Saddam Hussain as there's less chance of trouble with him. Anyway she listened to what I had to say, we had a glass of wine then she said it was her turn to say a few things. She told me she has know for ages about the 2 incidents where we came to blows and is extreamly disapointed that it's taken so long to tell her. Not only that it turns out he has attacked her brother as well. Anyway she got upset and said she had to go and sort her head out and maybe reconsider the wedding. She has since phoned me to apologise for walking out and explained it's only come out this last few days what this lad is really like and in her words "I dont think I can marry someone like that". I so much hope she doesn't go through with the wedding and if her dad still has his opinions on the lad he wont be to bothereed about the money he will loose if they do call it all off. Thanks so much to everyone for their advice and please accept my apologies for whittering on. cheers Neil. That made me smile.
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Post by neilrudd on Jan 16, 2006 21:34:51 GMT
Glad to Be of Service... . There are so many arsehole out there hope everything turns out ok.....
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Post by rainbow1984 on Jan 16, 2006 21:51:38 GMT
No problems Martin, anytime.
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Post by Jacks on Jan 16, 2006 22:37:38 GMT
Awwww hun! I'm glad things are out in the open now. You've done everything you can to let her know about the kind of person she is marrying. Its up to her now as to whether she goes through with it.
It sounds like this idiot likes to rub your nose in it at every opportunity and wants this girl to hate you, which is probably why he tries to start fights with you every time he sees you. Its probably best if you didnt go to the wedding, should it go ahead, cos as much as she wants you there, it will probably spoil her day if her idiot fiance has a pop. He'll probably try and blame it on you.
However, fingers crossed she'll call the whole thing off, you'll both realise you're still madly in love with each other and everyone lives happily ever after!
Good luck hun, with whatever happens and hope it all works out for you xxx
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Post by hoyles10 on Jan 23, 2006 12:43:40 GMT
Well I found out bit of details on Saturday as some of you already know my best mate refused to go and took me out for a day on the beer and to the Bolton - City game.
Anyway I got a phone call Saturday evening from one of my mates who was a bridesmaid to tell me that Leanne hadn't turned up to her wedding and had flown out to Spain on her own first thing Saturday morning without anyone knowing.
I have sent her a couple of text messages but no replies yet.
At least justice was done and she didn't marry the looser.
Could be interesting next time I see him out as apparantly he's telling everyone it's my fault that the wedding didn't go ahead.
I believe more people were happy they didn't get married than people who were upset she didn't turn up.
I know I have said it a million times but thank you so much to everyone for your fantastic advice.
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Post by rainbow1984 on Jan 23, 2006 12:52:41 GMT
Awww, i hope she's ok. just be careful Martin, cuz he may take it out on you physically for it.
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Post by hoyles10 on Jan 23, 2006 14:21:03 GMT
I doubt very much he will but i'm going to stay out of his way. As much as I would like to give him a good crack I believe that violence doesn't solve anything. it's just a shame he's not mature enough to talk about it rather than use his fists.
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Post by kblover on Jan 23, 2006 14:57:22 GMT
Aww Martin I hope everything will be ok especially as it seems that this guy is looking for someone to blame and as she is out of the country just be careful. Revenge does strange things to people and well he sounds like the kind of person who would want revenge, no matter what, sorry to say.
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Post by rainbow1984 on Jan 23, 2006 15:37:33 GMT
Yeah have to agree with KB on this one, just watch your back.
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