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Post by alicecoopersgirl on Jan 19, 2006 10:32:13 GMT
I found out that a so called mate of mine has been slagging me off behind my back and saying things about my weigh and there is no way Im going to lose any weigh at all...I've had a feeling she is slagging me off for a while,but never been able to prove it until now. She is over weigh herself but just picks on me and my weigh even though she knows all about my PolyCystic Ovaries(so knows the problems I have in losing the weigh). My other mates say it is just because she is jealous as everyone talks to me because they want to and I can be myself...but she has people being nice just because she works behind the bar(in my local) and she is never herself. I just wish she would back off and leave me alone...Im now beginning to doubt myself and its because of her...I hate it when people make you feel like that. Sorry for posting this...I needed to get it off my chest as its been hurting me bad over the last couple of days.
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Post by rainbow1984 on Jan 19, 2006 10:40:11 GMT
Awww hun, i know how you feel, my so called mates have always told me that i'm not attractive and stuff like that and it really hurts, i'm really sensitive anyway without being put down any further.
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Post by alicecoopersgirl on Jan 19, 2006 10:57:32 GMT
but its just when Im starting to feel good about myself that this kick has come...and it hurts.
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Post by Bad Bunny on Jan 19, 2006 10:59:48 GMT
Sorry to hear that Lisa, it's horrible when people act like that: I've had it from "mates" in the past. I don't for a second doubt you can lose the weight you want to – you seem like a very determined person to me! It's a brave thing to do to and you deserve admiration for it. Mine's a bit different, but I find it hard that my OH has apparently no faith that I'll ever get any of my stories/book published, he sees it as something I do to be annoying(!) It's very demoralising when people don't have faith in you I know. Though we've only met one time, you seem totally lovely to me, so don't let the *****s get you down. You're better off without mates like that, as I know from experience. I have total faith you'll do it – stay positive! Kay xx
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Post by kblover on Jan 19, 2006 14:43:44 GMT
Aww hun some people can be so nasty but don't ever let them start doubting yourself as that is what they want. Feel good about yourself and don't let anyone make you feel bad. Be positve and most of all be yourself which is what you are doing from what I can see. Don't let this person bring you down or stop believing in yourself cause if you do that you will only be letting yourself down. Stay positive and try not to listen to what they are saying about you cause as your other mates have told you she is only jealous, so give her something else to be jealous of and loose the amount of weight you want to.
Love Jeannette
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Post by Trixie on Jan 19, 2006 16:16:49 GMT
awww hunny just try and not let it get to u hun i know its very upsetting but if u show her ur upset bout it she'll only do it all the more. try and show her u dont care, at least u know who ur proper friends r. if u ever need someone to talk to we are always here for u just click on one of our names and send us a pm we r here for u even if u just want to get things of ur chest
tons of love Trixie xxxxxxx
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Post by Emma-lou on Jan 19, 2006 23:26:20 GMT
Awww Lisa i know its difficult when people seem to want to put you down all the time but really just dont listen to her! You are doing brilliantly with losing weight already in just a couple of weeks - i have every faith that you'll do it and get to where you want to be! If all she can manage to do with her time is make you feel bad then i dont think she's really worth talking to her (unless your asking for a glass of wine at the bar that is!! Then your allowed!! ) any friend that spends their time judging you and putting you down cant really be classed as a real friend. Dont get dishearted hunnie, keep at it and just ignore the negative people - she wont be laughing when you get into that little black dress!! xxx
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Post by strauss on Jan 20, 2006 8:07:01 GMT
Aww Lisa hun it sounds as if this 'so called friend' is just jealous hun, you are doing brilliantly with losing the weight hun and i am sure that you will continue to do so. Like Emma says she wont be laughing when you can fit into lots of smaller size clothes. She doesnt sound like a true friend to me. Aww bless you hun, keep up the great work hun we are all behind you.xxx
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Post by alicecoopersgirl on Jan 20, 2006 10:53:25 GMT
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Post by angel2 on Jan 21, 2006 18:55:49 GMT
I agree with lin hun, i think your so called friend is jealous of you hun, just remember you are worth 10 of someone like that, keep your head high and carry on with the great weight loss. ((((((((((((((((((((hugs lisa)))))))))))))))))))))) lots love julie xxx
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Post by emmarudd on Jan 21, 2006 20:23:46 GMT
aww hunny you know you'll alwasys have friends here!
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Post by lifesmate on Jan 21, 2006 23:27:05 GMT
Dont let anyone make you feel bad hun. Just remember that those that put you down do so to make them feel better about themselves.
(((hugs)))
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Post by Jacks on Jan 21, 2006 23:34:52 GMT
Totally agree, Cam. I have a wonderful "friend" who is insisting that she needs to lose weight, even though she is a stick insect. She seems to think that because I'm getting a very small amount of attention because of being on a diet, she doesnt like it and says this so that everyone will say "oh, no...you dont need to lose weight, you're so gorgeous and slim" ....arrggggghhhhh does my head in! Shes the same one who asked me not so long ago if I'd lost weight. When I said "I might have lost a little bit", she replied "Yeah, I didnt think you looked as fat as you normally do". Made me feel wonderful about myself....
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Post by lifesmate on Jan 21, 2006 23:41:10 GMT
Totally agree, Cam. I have a wonderful "friend" who is insisting that she needs to lose weight, even though she is a stick insect. She seems to think that because I'm getting a very small amount of attention because of being on a diet, she doesnt like it and says this so that everyone will say "oh, no...you dont need to lose weight, you're so gorgeous and slim" ....arrggggghhhhh does my head in! Shes the same one who asked me not so long ago if I'd lost weight. When I said "I might have lost a little bit", she replied "Yeah, I didnt think you looked as fat as you normally do". Made me feel wonderful about myself.... oh such a nice friend I have a friend that will tell me I should not eat biscuits as it will make me fat then scoffs a whole packet. He..yes HE..lol..is not exactly slim yet for some reason cant see his big belly when he looks in the mirror. Its self denial with these people although deep down they do realise so to stop themselves feeling guilty they take it out on others.
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Post by Trixie on Jan 22, 2006 10:29:59 GMT
i agree with emmarudd hun u've always got friends here who will support u in wot ever u do. just dont let them get u down if u ever feel down just talk to anyone of us we r always here for u no matter what
tons of love Trixie xxxxxxx
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